Steps

  1. Contact a domestic violence hotline first; advocates can help with technology safety planning before you change anything.
  2. Use a device the other person has never had access to, such as a friend's phone or a library computer, for sensitive searches and calls.
  3. Write down what makes you suspicious, with dates: things they knew, settings that changed, apps you do not recognize.
  4. Ask the advocate before checking signed-in devices, and change nothing yet.
  5. Plan with the advocate when and how to change passwords, check the phone, or replace it.
  6. Keep using the monitored phone normally for ordinary things while you plan, if that keeps you safer.

Stop and call a professional if

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